Observations

There are days where I like to sit back and just observe. I observe everything that goes on. From wind blowing through trees, birds sitting on street lamps to people. My favorite thing to observe is people. There are so many different sort of people. Fat, thin, ugly, beautiful, dark, light, etc... I tend to look at their eyes first. I notice the colour, the shape, whether they had bags or not, and most of all how full their souls are. You can notice it by seeing the glimmer or dullness in their eyes. Yesterday while I was at the park with my children waiting for my brother, sister in law, nephew and dad, I noticed a terminally ill man. He was super skinny. Clothes were hanging off him. He walked up to me while I was playing tennis with my son. He started talking about how much his daughter loves tennis and proceeded onto the swings with his daughter. His daughter was approx 6-7 years old. She was a beautiful native girl with brown eyes and short brown hair. She was not smiling but you could see the glimmer in her eyes. Her father had only a few teeth and was limping. It was obvious that he was very sick and in pain. He winced when he took a wrong step but it did not stop him from playing iwth his daughter. They swung high then twisted around. It was obvious the man was in a lot of pain but yet you could see great happiness in his eyes. They were in their own world. No matter what the little girl's father looked like, she still loved him unconditionally and he loved her unconditionally despite the difference in their races.

Love is love, no matter what colour, sex, age and how healthy a person is. It is truly a beautiful thing.

Somedays just a cup of coffee would make a person's day. One day I was having coffee with a friend of mine. This homeless man came in asking for a loonie (dollar) so he could get himself a coffee. My friend then started to scream at him to leave us alone. I became upset because he didn't ask for it so I told my friend to be quiet and gave him a loonie. Again, you could see the glimmer returning to his eyes and he smiled. That was enough thanks for me.

There are so many simple things people could do for others. Let them pass you if they had a few groceries. Let a person come out of the parking lot when there is a bad traffic. Give a few dollars if they don't have enough to pay for groceries. Make eye contact as you do those things and watch the glimmer come then you will know it's all worth it.

So many people forget to make eye contact. They talk to others while looking down, up, the sides or in the guys cases, the female's chests. ;-) Eyes are truly the window to one's soul.

June 30, 2005

Alex, Sky and their older half brother, River taken on Sky's 4th birthday.

First post!

I started this blog exclusively to write about my life as a single mom. I will write about the wonderful and horrible times I have with my children. Raising two VERY active children is not a piece of cake and I feel I need a place where I can rave and rant.

A summary of what we would need to know..

I am a divorced mother of two young children. One boy, Alexander Xavier, turning six on December 30th. One girl, Savannah Sky, turned four on June 30th. Alex will be entering the first grade and Sky will be starting Junior Kindergarten this September.

Since Alex was in JK, he would not speak in school. It turns out that it is common with children who knows more than two languages. They may feel close to the parent who uses different language and feels like it would be betraying them if they spoke english. Or they simply do not feel comfortable using english in front of so many students especially if their first language is not english. Alex is a very shy boy but when you get to know him, you will find that he is a very michevious child. His eyes twinkle when he has something up his sleeve. He has also become "mouthy" meaning he talks back. A lot of people are quite puzzled when they find out this little smart aleck refuses to talk in school. Towards the end of Senior Kindergarten, he finally started talking to a select few friends but no adults. I'm hoping he'll feel comfortable enough to talk in grade 1 since it is required.

Now on to Sky. For those who knows her, thinks she is a lot like me. Fiercely independent and she will not take any crap from anyone no matter what. She will argue until she's blue in the face if she believes she is right. She already has an attitude and those who gets on her bad side will feel it. She is also a very socializing child. She likes to have many friends to play with unlike her older brother. She got involved with gymnastics at the age of 3 and ballet a little later. I predict she will be alright in school since she already had experiences meeting other children and that helps her socializing skills.

One very interesting thing I have noticed about both children. Alex is more fluent in ASL than Sky. Sky is more fluent in spoken english than Alex. (Both are hearing obviously) I realized that it is probably because Alex was the first child so he got all the attention from me and his father. Sky was the second child so she got the most attention from Alex since they are just one year and half apart. Don't get me wrong, Sky can sign well, she just talks more than she can sign. Once my mom had my uncle, aunt and cousins over, Sky decided to tell a story about the goldlicks and three bears. It really surprised everyone because she actually memorized the whole story and at the age of three.

I will be adding various experiences from time to time. I'm hoping this would help me get a fresh view on how I am raising my own children since it's hard to watch myself in action. I expect to make a lot of mistakes but I hope that I am able to catch them and change my ways if needed.